This is tough though tough. If we actually achieve a post-racial world, what’ll we do with all those jokes about Asians, and Blacks, and poor Whites, and the physically and mentally handicapped, and gays, and… I mean if we can’t caricature people what would Jeff Dunham do? What would Tosh.O do? What would Martin Lawrence do? Do you mean that I won’t think that Asians make the worst drivers anymore…and when I see a bad driver and he or she is Asian…then what? So won’t I pull my purse anymore? So what happens if I don’t pull my purse and some Black guy rips it off or jacks my car or something? So I don’t think that every White man with a jacket and tie and a smile is a liar and is in it just for the money or prestige?
Because if you think of it, we need to retain difference. I need to have a bigger house than you…and feel justified in my earning it. I need to my kids to go to ballet and gymnastics. I need to feel elevated and special, and if all of this separation goes away – then whom do I laugh at? Whom do I look down on? I need a BMW and a yacht and a big house and a cabin and a cool-ass sports car. And if it is post-racial, then everybody has an equal chance to get that. I don’t know if I want that. Can we just talk about it a bit more while I hook-up my bank account on some poor folks’ backs? Oh well!!!
Hey, here is a question for you: I have a dog who is really really ill. I lift her to take her downstairs ’cause I don’t want her to hurt herself. But on the flat, I make sure she walks – that’s ’cause I don’t want to weaken her and make her muscles atrophy and her bones brittle.
Yet, we have many well-meaning teachers, and socially active agencies that keep lifting my kids up. They lift them up the stairs. They lift them down the stairs. They lift them on the flat. They don’t give them any challenging work to do. Or some of my Special Education teachers actually give my kids the answers. Or some of my Regular education teachers just let them sit there or walk out of class.
I’ll give you an example. I have a school that keeps paying for one of my kid’s medicine – because they know he needs it and because they care. They’ve been doing this since he was in third grade. The medicine is expensive. His mother does not have the money or the ability to find that kind of money. The kid needs the medicine.
I understand all of that. I really do. But tell me this: How come his mother (no dad) does not pay for a certain percentage – even $10:00? I’ve seen this behavior a lot amongst well-meaning, caring people. It’s like me lifting my dog up the stairs, down the stairs, and one the flat – – – and wondering why she keeps getting weaker and weaker! !
So I asked a principal about this pattern I have noticed in really wonderfully, caring teachers and here is what she told me. “They keep preparing my kids for jail…and they don’t even realize it. Kids, regardless of life circumstance, must be held responsible for their learning…for their actions. ”
This giving and giving behavior, she says, is keeping both the kids and families in a weakened and submissive state. This leads to an under-skilled, un-readied population. They keep preparing my kids for jail.
For this final (maybe we’ll have another final one) – for this final blog, really dig into this for me. Let’s get some thoughtful discussions going.
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